More on "Good Hair!"
I’ve LOVED reading your comments about hair!
If you want to see how this hair discussion all started, just click here. It’s so interesting how something on top of our heads could cause so much drama inside of them. Let’s just be honest, at one point or another in our lives, we’ve all lost sleep over whether or not it was going to look right for – the prom, the picture, the wedding day, etc. We’ve all panicked when we’ve looked into the mirror and seen less than spectacular results, and we’ve all breathed a sigh of relief and felt our heart palpitations slow down when it has obeyed and done exactly what we hoped it would.
You gotta know that all of this stems from the society we are in, right? Why else would there be far more "blonde" white women then are actually blonde, and far more straight-haired black women than actually have straight hair. In our own way, in our own cultures, we inadvertently succomb to what “they” want us to look like. Why do you think that is? And who is “they” for you?
Well, I’ve decided that I have GOOD HAIR. Whether it’s straightened or curly, kinky or smooth. It’s mine. It’s God-given and I’m just going to figure out the best way to handle it and enjoy it. And while I love wearing my hair in its natural state, you should do what is best for you and allows you to get the most enjoyment. So whether you like to wear yours straight or wavy, dye it blonde or brunette, wear it long or chopped short, I’m hoping that you’ll make that choice for YOURSELF and not to impress or please the people around you. We’ve all gotta just relax and enjoy what we’ve got.
I loved what a woman named Leslie, who labeled herself a “white missionary in Haiti”, commented yesterday about what she is trying to instill in her little sweet adopted Haitian daughter. We could all learn from that, eh’?
So here’s my question for you (as we keep asking questions of each other), in what way do you feel pressure culturally to look a certain way? How has it changed what you do or don’t do with your appearance?
Thanks for chiming in.
PS. To my sweet white/"peach" sisters, we won’t be offended if you’ve got some specific questions you want to ask us. And to my sweet black/brown sisters, I know my caucasian friends won’t mind a few either!