Recently, I stumbled across Abby Durlewanger on Instagram. Watching her and her family cook together and share their way of eating with the world is not only fun, but also insightful. For a carb-loving girl like me, her ideas have helped me be more creative in preparing delicious recipes for myself and my sons that have a higher protein content.
Abby is the founder of House of Keto, and her creative techniques have attracted and inspired many thousands of people. To date, she is 130 pounds down and her confidence is higher than it’s ever been!
Abby enjoys spending time with her family and helping others (through her business and ketogenic lifestyle) find freedom from food addiction. She aims to encourage her clients to place God first to allow Him to meet their needs instead of relying on “comfort foods.”
I know you’ll enjoy this conversation with her and, as always, I encourage you to leave Abby an uplifting word before you log off. I know she’ll appreciate your kindness! Then, head on over to her Instagram page and give her a follow @house.of.keto!
PS . . . And, take my word for it, you should give her twisted bacon a try! *wink!
- If you could describe this season of your life in one word, what word would it be? Why?
Overwhelmed. I’m honestly just blown away with everything that has happened. I am where I am today because of one of my lowest and darkest seasons. Something that was designed to take me out, is bringing people in.
- In terms of your career, before you knew you would be _______________, you almost . . .
Before I became a social media influencer, I thought that I would only ever be a mother. I honestly had no plans to be anything more. Moms are amazing. I love my children, and I’m so thankful that I get to help others outside of my home and change lives.
- In what ways do you ensure that your career path serves the purposes of God and encourages His people?
I know that I was created on purpose, for a purpose. God has designed me to be able to speak to a certain group of people and in a way that only I can. I love showing people that “Yes, you!” – I think a lot of times we think our story must be perfect or even disqualifies us, but I’ve learned the very thing we are convinced leaves us unlovable, is the part God desires to use. Growing up in church I always saw “the perfect” and “the super holy” as the ones being “used by God” or should I say picked. . . but I’m learning the ones God picks . . . whoa baby, they got a story to tell. I stay transparent with my faith and my relationship with God. I think more people can relate to that.
- Fill in the blank. I am not a very _____________ person.
I am not a very outgoing person.
I’ve been very shy, insecure, and lacked self-worth. People never believe me because they see me on social media having a ball. I think I feel more comfortable being on social media because it’s a private, lack of privacy. I create my content at home, where I feel safe and secure. I think this has helped me really step into the fullness of who I am, and I’ve learned how to show up as myself online and in person instead of a muted version of myself because of fear of rejection.
- Name your biggest strength and your biggest weakness? How has each served you as you’ve fulfilled your purpose?
One of my greatest strengths is my tenacity, I just don’t quit. I love that about me. I’ve been able to use this to help others by always being able to find a way. If something seems difficult or overwhelming, I have the ability to simplify it and make it easily understandable.
One of my weaknesses would be my level of insecurity. I feel like because I’m so open about this I’m able to help others who are dealing with this as well. I’m real about where I’m at, what I think of myself, and the ways I am improving.
- What’s the most interesting thing you’ve read or seen this week?
New-onset pediatric diabetes cases increased by 182% during the first year of the pandemic.
- When is the last time you laughed so hard that it hurt?
Probably watching a TikTok video! I like to give myself a few minutes a day to watch something silly!
- What has been the most difficult season in your life? How did you get through it?
At 27 years old, I wanted to end my own life because of the weight of my depression and anxiety. I suffered from a lot of childhood trauma and sexual abuse from someone not in my family. I carried the weight of this shame since I was just a young girl, and it literally impacted every single thing that I did or did not do. I never felt like enough, and I always felt broken and ruined. I learned to numb myself so that I wouldn’t have to feel the pain of living in my violated body. I got so good at this that it felt like I wasn’t alive. I had numbed everything.
The only way to bring myself back was to eat. Being stuffed beyond capacity was the only thing that I could feel. I couldn’t feel love. I didn’t feel safe. I didn’t have peace. I could not trust anyone. Feeling stuffed was the only way I knew I was still alive. It led me to be extremely overweight and unhealthy.
I’ll never forget the day that God spoke to me and told me my name, Abigail which means “fathers joy”, not my earthly father, but God. I was curious as to how He could possibly find joy in me, how could He take delight in me, this broken, damaged, disgusting girl . . . It was that curiosity that was enough to get me out of my bedroom closet that day. The curiosity drove me to find out what God thinks of me and then the more I learned, the more I started to believe he might want me, love me, desire to be close to me. That thought wrecked every lie I had been believing and is the reason I am still here today. It’s the reason I’m so passionate about what I do. I feel this sense of urgency to partner with God and save lives.
Somebody is on the floor of their closet today, believing a lie, and I just want them to believe something one more time . . . that God wants you. Yes, you! I know you don’t feel worthy and may think as I did – why would God want someone like me, doesn’t He have higher standards? Doesn’t He know my story?
His love is the standard. It covers, it lifts, and it goes after the ones that everyone says “no, not that one.” He’s always there, saying, “Yes, yes, that’s the one I want, that’s the one I died for.”
- If you could make three wishes and there were no limitations on what you could request, what would you wish for?
I think I’m supposed to ask for wisdom? Haha! I’d say wisdom, that sugar never existed, and that bacon was free!
- If you could tell your younger self anything, what would it be?
I’d tell myself that God is not just WITH me in the pain, trauma, and heartache, but that it is happening to Him also. He’s not just standing by cruelly and helplessly watching me experience pain, but He is right there and it’s happening to Him too. He feels it, He knows it inside and out just like I do. He was violated when I was violated.
This would’ve helped me so much when I was younger because I went for so long wondering how a “God so great” would allow me to deal with this pain. This prevented me from being able to see God as a safe place, as I saw Him just standing there watching it all happen.
We live in a sinful world of broken people and God has given us autonomy because He loves us. Nobody will ever fully understand the pain that was inflicted on us or how it felt to experience it. But, when it was happening to Him as it was happening to me, HE KNEW. I have the creator of the universe who experienced it with me.
*These blog interviews are designed only to be fun, informative and introductory. GB Ministries has varying levels of familiarity with each participant so their presence here does not equal our endorsement of or full alignment with theological doctrine or political perspective.